This mantra was what Vicki was living by for the last year and a half she was on earth. Vicki felt this helped her breathe, relax, and accept what was happening with her health. I find myself in the months since her passing thinking of all the mantras over the years that Vicki held close to her heart.
In the first few days following Vicki’s death nothing was ever more clear to me than when you leave your earthly body your belongings and possessions remain. Many rooms in her home and office felt as if she was there moments before you entered. It makes you think about things people often say in situations such as: “Why do bad things happen to good people?” and “Life is short”. The unfortunate answer is so many things in our lives are uncontrollable. We are left to wait and see what will happen. We never know what day will be our last. Having these thoughts in your head can be troubling when thought about for too long. I look to how Vicki lived to bring myself out of that hole. Vicki loved living. She cherished every sunset, warm breeze, a hug from her child or grandchild, or an evening listening to the ocean. Vicki loved passionately and deeply. The love shared between her and her husband, Jim, was undeniable. The love they shared for each other emanated from them and filled the space in the room. You could literally feel how much they loved each other. She encouraged others to take it all in. To see the good in others; Vicki saw goodness in everyone.
Vicki believed in karma. Vicki was always putting good and doing good out in the world. She believed that if you put goodness out in the world you would receive it back. Vicki had said to me many times,”Don’t worry, it will work itself out.” She applied this saying to her business as well as her personal life. At first, I must admit I was cynical that this could possibly be true however after being around Vicki the last 20 plus years I have seen it “all work out” over and over again.
Another focus Vicki had in last years of her life was one of gratefulness. Trying to be grateful every single day; she recognized that sometimes people get upset or angry over little things. I have been reminded from my Face book memories that pop up how she was living a grateful attitude as she would post regularly what she was grateful for. Recently, my son wrote a paper about the American Dream. His focus of the paper was surrounded by the fact that the American Dream is largely focused on money and material possessions. He cited many works that discussed even when people felt they “had it all” (money and possessions) they remained unhappy. Vicki realized and lived her life in a way that you knew she was living each day to the fullest. Vicki had a very generous spirit. She was generous with everyone in her life from the women she helped to breastfeed, the families she met with regarding their loved ones last days, to her friends, to artists, and especially to her family.
In every event in our lives I believe there needs to be a take away, a lesson, something that remains engrained in your being. The process of what my “take away” from this event is still in process. For the moment, the few “take aways” are here written in this blog. So, I will continue each day remembering Life is short, don’t worry, it will all work itself out, live with a grateful attitude, to love passionately, and reciting When I breathe in I breathe in Peace; when I breath out I breathe out Love.
(This mantra continues to speak to me on a daily basis. One that I feel I must continue in my life and continue to pass on to others.)
Vicki’s life philosophy along with the feeling of loss we have experienced helps to renew our commitment and belief in compassionate and loving care of our clients and their families.